Defining Sex

Updated: Mar 15

Is masturbation sex?


Simply, yes!


Sex is typically and widely defined as penetrative—exclusively (and patriarchally) penis inserted into vagina. I do not use that outdated and narrow definition when I'm teaching and I encourage you to discard it too!


Sex is defined by you and your lovers. Sex could be kissing; holding hands; cuddling; penetration with fingers, penis, dildos; naked or with clothes on; include sex toys; verbal play; watching porn together; foreplay; and so on, so forth, etc.



Even if you have a sexual partner in your life, masturbation is the best way to stay connected to what your body needs and wants. Sex with lovers is different than sex with yourself and it is ohhhh so important.


Book a coaching session to further explore your definition of sex.

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